“Of course you can’t. You’re a woman!”

My 9th grade geography text book states that ‘India is a developing country’ in bold block letters. Certainly it is with about 65% people claiming to be modern despite living in rural areas. But ‘modern’ in what sense? A simple change in the wardrobes from salwar-kameez to denims and shorts or allowing your sot sons to party all night to the tunes of Honey Singh?

I am aware of the fact that the plight of women is not only confined to a nation- India but lurks in almost all corners of the world. But since I am concerned for my country in particular, I’ll keep all those foreign cases on a back burner. I may frequently address the male society as a whole, but let me be very clear in the beginning itself. I am dragging all those ‘brave’, ‘majestic’, ‘superior’ men under the category MALE CHAUVINISTIC SOCIETY who believe that because they have got guy parts, they’re automatically a better mechanic than a female.

Let me illustrate something terribly sad. And after that you’ll get a clear cut glimpse of the biased society we are living in. What’s the worst thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back now. You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt (I told you not to hold back!), skank. Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy. Noticed anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. Now tell me that’s not royalty fucked up?

Women are bruised and pulverized with words and phrases like ‘inferior’, ‘low-level’, ‘You’re a woman, act like one’ and most commonly as my title for this article goes. A male friend of mine said to me a week back, ‘Since you’re the ‘girl’ in the relationship, your reputation and image is at stake.’ I wondered what he actually meant and could come out with just one plausible explanation. I guess he was trying to convey that as men do not have a repute of their own, it is the women whose reputation is at stake. WOW! I’ve also got ‘modern’ friends. *sigh*

Calling one modern and then blindly following the old school notion by considering women as the inferior sex is the biggest irony one can think of. She is the one who gave birth to you and then you gullibly deny the fact that she is powerful?

Remember people. Women is not born, she is made. In the process of making, her humanity is destroyed. She becomes symbol of this, symbol of that, mother of the earth, slut of the universe. But she never becomes herself because it is forbidden for her to do so. She is no less than any male in any way. She just wants the respect and platform to showcase her superiority. But that does not imply that she is frail. In fact she is so majestic that she can even build a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at her.



16 thoughts on ““Of course you can’t. You’re a woman!”

  1. Have you heard the song by Madonna called “what it feels like for a girl”- great lyrics I think you’ll appreciate. Good post and thanks for stopping by my blog is well- absolute truth how men are mocked for dressing like women but no problem with women dressing like men, because to act or look like a woman is degrading in our society. It reminds me how on Saturday Night Live the male actors finally stood up and said they would no longer be playing black female characters because they needed to hire black women. A seemingly small victory but significant you know?


    1. Yes. Truly significant. And thanks for your insight on the matter and suggesting me a song which truly depicts the pressure women feel to conform to the social norms of the society.


  2. Awestruck. I have no words for it, really. Awesome stuff, darling. So nicely written. Waiting for your book! Really!


  3. Truth gilded in the post… Agree with what you say.. The idea of being modern is related by people as wearing fancy clothes, having a cool hairstyle, and speaking big words.. We don’t realize one is actually modern with positive thoughts and progressive thinking, when we decline the stereotyped philosophies and ideologies and start thinking rationally..
    Well written post..!


    1. Thanks Kamalpreet. We have got a similar thinking on the subject. If people change their rudiment mentality then certainly India will become a better place to live in. I am looking forward for a post on this vital topic in ‘INSPIRATION.’


  4. Awestruck!! I am spellbound mamta! Seriously…you should work for the editorial page of TOI. And m nt exaggerating …you deserve dt praise for you are an excellent writer.


    1. Alisha!! Thanks a ton sweetheart. You don’t know that what wonders your compliments can do. They always motivate me to do better. And I’ll think about your suggestion. 🙂


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